Comments on: How to Deal With a Bully at School http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/ parenting tips, tricks and commentary Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:44:38 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Mark Gavagan http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25850 Mark Gavagan Sat, 01 Aug 2009 18:03:18 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25850 Wow. That seems like very good advice, though at some point violence may ensue from this bully despite your family's best efforts. Perhaps a bit of advice regarding self-defense would be a good idea. If you don't have much time or expertise, rent "The Karate Kid" and let us know how that one-legged maneuver works out. Good luck! Wow. That seems like very good advice, though at some point violence may ensue from this bully despite your family’s best efforts.

Perhaps a bit of advice regarding self-defense would be a good idea. If you don’t have much time or expertise, rent “The Karate Kid” and let us know how that one-legged maneuver works out. Good luck!

]]> By: Jim http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25814 Jim Fri, 06 Mar 2009 20:09:49 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25814 My son just told a bully if he didnt stop he would find my son's foot up his butt. Problem solved. At the middle school level, it sometimes makes it worse when the parents are involved. Sure the direct bullying goes away, but the stigma of having mommy help is always there. My son just told a bully if he didnt stop he would find my son’s foot up his butt. Problem solved. At the middle school level, it sometimes makes it worse when the parents are involved. Sure the direct bullying goes away, but the stigma of having mommy help is always there.

]]> By: MaIsabel http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25812 MaIsabel Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:48:42 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25812 Dear Phillip's mom... Please let us know how your story ends/ended. Dear Phillip’s mom… Please let us know how your story ends/ended.

]]> By: Iliana http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25803 Iliana Wed, 11 Feb 2009 00:37:20 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25803 Hi, my son is 7 years old and just told me that someone in his gym class told him he liked boys and that he was born this "way". Yeah, he called him gay. I am not upset at what was said to my son, but I am upset that my son looked so sad when he told me. Being gay is not something that should be used as an insult, this is how i feel, and I think hat this should be brought to his parent's attention so they know how their son is using this word and see if they even care. I do not want to tell a parent how to raise their child, but when my son is involved, THEY WILL DEFINITELY HEAR ME OUT! But I have cooled off and thank heavens I came across this page to see that maybe I should just let this one instance go. I did talk to my son and tell him what was suggested here. I also warned him that he better not tease others or start any name calling himself. Kids will be kids and even though name calling/bullying is common in elementary school, I don't want to even think that someone is making my son feel bad. I told him that he needs to let me know if it happens again so that I can go to his school and talk to someone to put an end to this and let his parent's know how their son is treating other kids. Maybe they have no idea their son is saying this awful things just as I don't know if my son ever teased someone 'cause if he did or does, he will hear me out...so thanks again for the info! Hi, my son is 7 years old and just told me that someone in his gym class told him he liked boys and that he was born this “way”. Yeah, he called him gay. I am not upset at what was said to my son, but I am upset that my son looked so sad when he told me. Being gay is not something that should be used as an insult, this is how i feel, and I think hat this should be brought to his parent’s attention so they know how their son is using this word and see if they even care. I do not want to tell a parent how to raise their child, but when my son is involved, THEY WILL DEFINITELY HEAR ME OUT!

But I have cooled off and thank heavens I came across this page to see that maybe I should just let this one instance go. I did talk to my son and tell him what was suggested here. I also warned him that he better not tease others or start any name calling himself. Kids will be kids and even though name calling/bullying is common in elementary school, I don’t want to even think that someone is making my son feel bad. I told him that he needs to let me know if it happens again so that I can go to his school and talk to someone to put an end to this and let his parent’s know how their son is treating other kids. Maybe they have no idea their son is saying this awful things just as I don’t know if my son ever teased someone ’cause if he did or does, he will hear me out…so thanks again for the info!

]]> By: Isaac Yassar http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25796 Isaac Yassar Wed, 14 Jan 2009 09:29:35 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25796 Hi, I'm Isaac Yassar and I help people reach success in self development, business, and blogging for free. Thanks for sharing, it's interesting to read your article about your son and the bully. I enjoy reading it. Hi, I’m Isaac Yassar and I help people reach success in self development, business, and blogging for free. Thanks for sharing, it’s interesting to read your article about your son and the bully. I enjoy reading it.

]]> By: Phillip's mom http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25792 Phillip's mom Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:01:42 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25792 My nine year old son has had the same kid picking on him and calling him names since Kindergarten. His teacher has prohibited the two of them from sitting together during lunch or being in close range on the playground but that doesn't stop 'Trevor' from standing a few kids behind mine in line to the restroom or lunchroom and calling him names in front of the other kids. Like the child mention in the original post, my son is quite a bit taller and heavier than the child doing the name calling so he's not afraid of him, he's just tired of being insulted by and embarrassed by him. I've had enough...when I take my son to school tomorrow I'll be going in with him to have a talk with 'Trevor' and their teacher. My nine year old son has had the same kid picking on him and calling him names since Kindergarten. His teacher has prohibited the two of them from sitting together during lunch or being in close range on the playground but that doesn’t stop ‘Trevor’ from standing a few kids behind mine in line to the restroom or lunchroom and calling him names in front of the other kids.

Like the child mention in the original post, my son is quite a bit taller and heavier than the child doing the name calling so he’s not afraid of him, he’s just tired of being insulted by and embarrassed by him.

I’ve had enough…when I take my son to school tomorrow I’ll be going in with him to have a talk with ‘Trevor’ and their teacher.

]]> By: Deb Young http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25786 Deb Young Wed, 03 Dec 2008 15:13:17 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25786 Wow. This brought back many memories of myself at school when I was 12. I was beat up regularily in the area I lived in just for having white skin and my parent never intervened so it never stopped. Looking back now my choice then was only to fight back but I never did, oddly enough tho I was passive all through school I am the opposite as an adult lol. I guess I got walloped to a breaking point between then and now. I have to say fighting back usually will resolve bullying tho. It did for my own son. keep us posted! Wow. This brought back many memories of myself at school when I was 12. I was beat up regularily in the area I lived in just for having white skin and my parent never intervened so it never stopped. Looking back now my choice then was only to fight back but I never did, oddly enough tho I was passive all through school I am the opposite as an adult lol. I guess I got walloped to a breaking point between then and now. I have to say fighting back usually will resolve bullying tho. It did for my own son.
keep us posted!

]]> By: Emily http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25785 Emily Wed, 03 Dec 2008 10:53:04 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25785 This is a critical part of growing up and these things affect a child's psyche in a major way. Asking your child to stand up against bullying is always a good lesson for them to learn for now and for future so they don't become pushovers. I love this saying I read somewhere- "Never fight with a pig- he likes it, and you get dirty!" This is a critical part of growing up and these things affect a child’s psyche in a major way. Asking your child to stand up against bullying is always a good lesson for them to learn for now and for future so they don’t become pushovers. I love this saying I read somewhere- “Never fight with a pig- he likes it, and you get dirty!”

]]> By: jay http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25784 jay Tue, 02 Dec 2008 08:47:07 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25784 Please follow up on this story and let us know how things go. This is exactly the type of thing I hope parenting blogs will discuss. My kids haven't started school yet, and I'm in Japan where bullying has a somewhat different nature from bullying in the U.S.z Though I suspect that similar methods can be used to address it. I hope it works out, and maybe the bully in question can get some help as well! Please follow up on this story and let us know how things go. This is exactly the type of thing I hope parenting blogs will discuss.

My kids haven’t started school yet, and I’m in Japan where bullying has a somewhat different nature from bullying in the U.S.z Though I suspect that similar methods can be used to address it.

I hope it works out, and maybe the bully in question can get some help as well!

]]> By: Trevor http://www.raising4boys.com/2008/09/11/how-to-deal-with-a-bully-at-school/comment-page-1/#comment-25780 Trevor Wed, 12 Nov 2008 05:12:36 +0000 http://www.raising4boys.com/?p=609#comment-25780 I like what you say about having him stand up to the bully first. He'll learn from it! If you were to just sort out his problems yourself, what does he learn, right? I like what you have to say! I'll be back! :) I like what you say about having him stand up to the bully first. He’ll learn from it! If you were to just sort out his problems yourself, what does he learn, right?

I like what you have to say! I’ll be back! :)

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