According to a recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, children who are praised for being intelligent (as in “You’re so smart…”) are can become highly sensitive to failure, making them less likely to take risks and more likely to give up when faced with a difficult challenge.
So next time you feel like praising your child for their success, bite your tongue and say:
“Hey idiot, nice job. Clearly you just got lucky, but it’s better to be lucky than good.”
I kid, I kid…
Rather, the recommended course of action is to give your kids specific praise for their effort, strategy, etc. For example, when your child does especially well on a test, compliment their study habits rather than their intellect.