More Kindergarten Misbehavior

Written by dad - 6 Comments

Just two days after our kindergartner had a meltdown getting on the school bus, he acted up in school and received a “red lily pad” – this is the worst of three levels on the all-important green/yellow/red “lily pad” behavioral scale. From what my wife has been able to glean of the situation, he pushed another little boy in the bathroom, and he later bent a little girl’s finger back and made her cry. Lovely. The details are a bit fuzzy, as he’s feigning memory loss, but… You know that mean little boy that kids always complain about? Unfortunately, Son #3 was that boy yesterday.

I know that everyone always says this about their own child, but our son really is a very sweet and sensitive kid. From the outset, however, we knew this would be a big and difficult adjustment for him, especially because he’s always been much more of a “sleeper dude” than his brothers. Sons #1 and #2 also went through an adjustment period when they first started kindergarten, but they didn’t act up at school. Rather, they saved it for when they got home. This is especially true of Son #1, who has always been a model student – he seems to save his pent up energy/anxiety/whatever for us when he gets home.

As far as repercussions go, his little outburst means that he’ll be missing the Friday treat. This will actually be a double-whammy for him since he’s scheduled to bring the treat this week – hopefully the lesson will stick. He also instructions to seek out his “victims” and apologize to them, as well as a note to his teacher this morning asking that she be sure he follows through.

As far as the prevention of future problems goes, we’re hoping to get him through the initial kindergarten exhaustion as soon as possible. He actually went to bed at 6PM last night, so hopefully that’s a step in the right direction. All in all, we’re confident that he’ll get through this. The main question is how long it will take before he adjust to his new schedule and starts returning to his happy go lucky old self.

Update: My wife received a phone call from our son’s teacher reassuring her that this was an isolated incident in what has otherwise been a good start to the school year. He has also made amends with those that he wronged, so hopefully it’s onward and upward from here.

Published on August 23rd, 2007 - 6 Comments
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  1. You give me hope. Mine starts tomorrow. First time on a school bus, first time to Kindergarten. Sigh.

    Comment by vw bug — Aug 23rd 2007 @ 3:07 pm
  2. Their first day in school is often wonderful since they are still on the getting to know phase. But once they’ve established self confidence, that’s when they start doing those things.

    Comment by Danni — Aug 24th 2007 @ 1:05 am
  3. Danni: That’s very true. It’s not until kids feel comfortable that they let their guard down. That’s why everyone else thinks our kids are angels – they save their worst mis-behavior for when they’re home!

    A related factor that I forgot to mention is that we’re in the midst of a record-setting heatwave, and so recess and gym class have very restricted, if not cancelled. This results in lots of pent up energy that needs to go somewhere, and sometimes it just comes out in the wrong way.

    Comment by dad — Aug 24th 2007 @ 8:42 am
  4. I think it’s normal for most boys to undergo that phase of their lives. I had a brother who acted just like that when we was still in kindergarten but grew up as a fine adult.

    Comment by Geri — Aug 24th 2007 @ 9:19 pm
  5. Geri: Thanks for your note. Honestly, I don’t think this is a “phase” so much as temporary exhaustion. Getting him to bed earlier (6PM!) has already helped his mood considerably.

    Comment by dad — Aug 25th 2007 @ 7:55 am
  6. I am searching out solutions to a very similar problem. My Angel-At-Home turns into the naughty kid at school! He is 5 and today is the 3rd day of kindergarten. Day 1, happy sticker from his teacher. Day 2, note from the teacher with a big pink “Call me” at the bottom. Day 3, less than an hour into the school day, I got a call from the assistant principal. We’re having a conference today.

    I agree, earlier bedtime will help. We’re going to talk about acceptable behavior. I may need to pull out a sticker/reward chart and give the positive rewards at home, too.

    Complicating things, his father was killed in a car accident in January 2010, and my little one is still adjusting to the loss. Last week he said “I wish my daddy was here to tell me about school.” Last evening when we talked about the note from Miss Crabtree, I asked “What would your Dad say about this? Would he be proud of you right now?” He bawled.

    It’s just one more adjustment in a series of adjustments this year. I hope we both make it intact!

    Comment by Nathalie — Sep 9th 2010 @ 2:24 pm

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