An Insolent Child, Part III: Are Insolent Kids Just a Sign of the Times?

Written by dad - 7 Comments

In Part I and Part II of this series, I talked about my encounters with two different little boys. Both of them were rude to me, one with a chip on his shoulder the size of Texas and another exhibiting extreme disobedience. Were there always such rude children around?

I would NEVER have behaved that way when I was a child, and you would have been hard pressed to find ANY child so audacious. My husband and I have a theory about the overwhelming number of ill behaved children that we encounter…

We believe some parents now a days are so afraid of disciplining their children for fear of harming their self esteem that they let their children lead them around by their noses. Put your foot down, already!!! Have some cajones!!! Their self esteem has a better chance of remaining intact if they’re taught proper social skills and self control in a gentle and nurturing way. Imagine the beating that their self esteem will take when they venture further in to the real world and society reigns them in with a hard yank on the chain.

Ultimately, I’ve encountered two little boys… disrespectful, rude, and unpleasant. I can explain away their behavior and make excuses for it. But isn’t it the same in the end? Two little boys coping with life without proper skills, destined to alienate more people. I hope their mothers (and fathers) step up to the plate and help them out. It will take diligence, perseverance, understanding, and direction on everyone’s part. Here’s hoping for the best.

Published on May 10th, 2007 - 7 Comments
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  1. I’d also add in that it is difficult to raise children without both parents working in large segments of the country, but I think the political correctness and everybody deserving a ribbon certainly plays a role.

    Comment by Blaine Moore — May 10th 2007 @ 1:31 pm
  2. I agree with Blaine–even though it’s not PC to say it–children do best with two involved parents.

    Comment by Mama Money — May 10th 2007 @ 4:04 pm
  3. It takes CONSISTENCY for children to learn what is acceptable and what is not. I have observed that there are a lot of parents who just flip-flop from day to day on what the rules are. They just do what ever is the easiest thing to do at the time.
    Also, there are too many parents that are wrapped up in their own little personal problems that raising their children is just sort of a side issue. Sorry, folks, but once you have kids, you gotta pay attention to what they are doing and keep directing them to go the right way.
    I just want to shake self-absorbed parents and tell them HEY! It ain’t about YOU, okay????
    Yeah, yeah… you have a right to happiness, self esteem and all that rot, but could you take 5 minutes of your time away from “finding yourself” and “making time for yourself” to raise your child to be a decent human being, too?
    And, yes it does take a mom and a dad to get the job done. Anyone who thinks a father is not necessary is a fool.

    Comment by Sharon — May 10th 2007 @ 5:25 pm
  4. I’ll reiterate it’s because you don’t want to go to jail for pinching your kid for misbehaving.

    Comment by Livingalmostlarge — May 13th 2007 @ 1:52 am
  5. Have 21-year old girl in our home that does absoultely nothing to help out…………………says her dad is p_ _ _ _ whipped for listening to me………..her step mother………………..awful hell living here……………………..

    Comment by Jan — Jul 17th 2009 @ 11:23 am
  6. i have a 13 yr old that i am very strict with. he is still trying to argue with other adults and tries to ground his brother. i am the only parent he has. can some one help me?

    Comment by candy — Aug 4th 2010 @ 2:13 am
  7. Dear Candy:

    You mention you are strict with him, which is fine, if you are consistent. Kids need structure and consistency. Your rules should be clear as should the consequences for not following them. It is also a good idea to explain to him why you forbid him to disrespect adults and your authority (by “grounding” his brother). Kids often feel adults are capricious in their discipline. Just as important as any of this, listen to him. Give him a chance to say why he argues with adults, what bothers him, etc. Then challenge him to judge the situation (use questions like, “Does this seem like a good idea? Why?”) He needs to see that he is establishing a pattern (good or bad) that will last his lifetime. As adults, we need to respect authority as well, or we’d all be fired and/or in jail! Lastly, any reinforcement you can get from a responsible male relative or friend will resonate with him.
    Hope all goes well.

    Comment by Brian — Sep 2nd 2010 @ 11:44 pm

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